Potty training is so hard because it is so dependent on their personality. With our middle daughter the only thing that worked was to just switch to underwear and be prepared for accidents for a few days. She was completely good after a few days - we just had to stay outside or on the hard wood floor.
Knowing your child is ready is, knowing your child.
Ask yourself, does she show signs of being ready?
One good sign is her diaper is dry in the morning when you wake up.
Another good sign is she can tell you she needs to use the restroom before she goes.
My youngest son (three years old) needed to move up a class in Montessori school but he had to be potty trained to do so. I had been trying pull-ups to no avail.
Finally, I did what one of the other moms stated and just put him in underwear and dealt with the accidents.
Number one took about 2 days and number 2 took almost two weeks but it worked. I don't think he liked the feeling of being wet/dirty.
Anytime he had an accident, he had to help me clean it up and I would explain to him that big boys use the toilet and that he is a big boy. Also, I read the book to him called "Everyone Poops" which has a boy but there are other books about potty training you can read to your little girl.
Potty training can be sressful for both parent and child alike. Most suggestions are based on speaking calm and relaxed. If it feels like it isn't working you need to be more patient, its not a race.
Speak softly and assure them it is alright. Potty training takes time and if it isn't working it might not be the right time.
Use your words like you have been.
If he's ready, he'll go. If he isn't ready, he won't. I thought my son would never potty train. Never. He insisted that his pull ups weren't diapers, he refused to wear diapers because those were for babies (he has a new little sister) and I was desperate to only have one in diapers. He was 3.5 and just not quite ready. We started doing underwear only when we were all at home for the day, and he peed himself a few times and really didn't like it, and then one day he was just like "okay, i have to go potty." and he went. we ran out of pull ups for night time and had to put him in underwear, and he's been dry at night for a few months now, almost as long as he's been potty trained. he'll be 4 in february and i'd say he's been completely potty trained since october or so.
he's used to pull ups, so just keep encouraging him to go potty in the potty, read him potty books and get him excited about going potty like a big boy.
When we potty trianed our first child at 26 months it felt like a big achievement. It was a cold winter day, but a sunny one. A month latter she was in underwear with no accidents.
It felt like a long road, but looking back it really wasn't.
We tried the potty training boot camp method and it worked great. I started on Saturday morning and told her she was a big girl now and she can wear underwear now. I made a really big deal about it and she was so excited. I explained to her that big girls use the potty and she'd have to use the potty now for pee and poop. There were accidents at first but I just kept telling her "peepee goes in the potty". Don't make it a big deal at all, just clean it up and move on. Within a few hours she was getting the hang of it and was using the potty a lot. She did so good over the weekend we decided to send her to daycare on Monday instead of keeping her home for a third day of training.
We left the potty out in the family room and tried to contain her to that room all weekend
She never gots juice so we bought some and watered it down so she would drink a lot. It was great because she drank a ton and was peeing a lot so she got a lot of practice.
She got a fruit snack after each successful time she went potty
We still did diapers for naps and nighttime.
Once they DO develop that muscle control, whether or not they pee or poop on a potty is completely up to them.
It's like eating.
You can't make your kid eat anymore than you can make them poop. Your toddler will always win in a battle of wills with eating and toileting. So my advice is to just relax. Maybe even let your toddler lead the way. Have a potty available. Talk to them about pee and poop.
If you're comfortable, let them see you pooping this can be a big help. And some of us don't have a choice. I know a lot of us moms already have them in the bathroom with us. Toddlers like to do things the way adults do them, so they'll probably become interested in using the toilet sooner rather than later, though it just may be later than you wanted.
Long story short, give it a try! You've got nothing to lose and may be surprised at how quickly it can go.
Our little girl was quick to give up the diaper. It bothered her I think, and who could blame her?
With our son it was a different matter all together.
We started putting him in pull ups and got a potty training seat at 2.5 years old. About the same time his sister was potty trained.
He quickly learned how to change his own diaper and use his seat when he was prompted by us. Everything felt like it was going good.
But it stopped there.
He absolutely would not use the bathroom on his own volition after that. We tried setting timers every hour just hoping he would get used to going and start going on his own without luck.
We tried this in conjunction with letting him run around naked several times, a suggestion that friends had made, this was not a success. I scrubed poo off his bedroom floor twice before we gave up on the idea.
After that I introduced a new potty training strategy. Here is the potty training plan I've had. When one method didn't work, I would try something else.
Something will work, I just feel like they need to be given the right prompt at times. And for parents this can be hard. I totally feel your pain about them knowing how to use the toilet and just preferring the diaper instead. It's so aggravating knowing that they know exactly what to do, but are choosing otherwise.
It's definitely a helpless feeling, like "Well kid, I can't do anything else for you. I have imparted all of my toilet pooing wisdom upon you. From here on out, it's up to you to help yourself." Then they usually look at you, get up and go use the toilet.
Basically, every kid is different. It's never a bad idea to introduce potty training but I think they're just going to do it on their terms :\ It's been a frustrating process for us.
Oh Crap! Potty Training was a book recommended to us and I'd recommend it to others. The author Jamie Glowacki offered some nice insight into the poo department with a bit of humor. It's a bit long but doesn't take too long to get through and there's an audiobook version as well. I was lucky that our local library had it.
I'll tell you upfront that she recommends ditching diapers and pull-ups from the get go when you start potty training.
We started over the Thanksgiving holiday but my son's daycare wouldn't support it so we changed schools this week (and for other reasons too). The change was too much so we paused potty training.
Anyway, the Oh Crap author encourages they go totally diaper free, first naked, then commando for weeks to retrain muscle memory. Pull ups are diapers. They feel like diapers. Underwear feels very similar too.
I would have never useed pull ups, like not at all, if had the choice again.
It made my son revert after being a natural at the potty. I only used them for bedtime and long car rides, but he would get so confused about when he should hold it and when he didn't have to. It's just awful.
The book is great, we just need a little time for our son to adjust to the new school and we'll try again.